Tag: Wiser With Age

  • An iconic Colombian photographer finds new life in NYC at 92

    An iconic Colombian photographer finds new life in NYC at 92

    Nereo López (Courtesy Facebook)
    Nereo López in Queens, New York. (Courtesy Facebook)

    Nereo López isn’t a typical 92-year-old; he’s more like a typical young, starry-eyed artist who wakes up at noon and gets inspiration from everything around him. His small frame is overpowered by his bright blue eyes anxiously anticipating what is about to come next in his life. López has not only rediscovered his art, he has gotten a second chance at a successful career and fulfillment.

    The Cruz de Boyacá winning photographer — one of the highest honors in Colombia — who had traveled the world taking photos, giving nearly 20 exhibitions, and published more than 10 works, saw his career plummet 12 years ago.  The man who met Gabriel García Márquez and Pope Paul IV had his center, the Nereo Center of Teaching and Culture of Photography in Bogota, Colombia, shut down due to lack of funds. He says after the age of 40, in Colombia, it is very hard to find work because you’re considered too antiquated.

    López says he was having thoughts of ending his life when a friend called from New York. She heard the distress in his voice about not being able to find a job, and how he was feeling depressed, so she bought him a ticket to the city that never sleeps — arriving the next day — to see if he’d like it better. He says he didn’t just like it better, he found another reason to keep living.

    “As soon as I arrived, I ran to all the photo galleries,” says López, describing his eagerness like a kid in an amusement park.

    The title of his photo book published last year, called “Nereo López: Un Contador de Historias,” describes what he is precisely — a storyteller. He says there was a time he used to have 14 cameras of different sizes to tell his stories. Now, he just uses one to make his life simpler and lighter — a compact Canon G9.

    “Photography still fascinates me,” says the man who one day started observing the faces of people leaving the subway and started a series of photos of just that. “What I have learned is to see.”

    The talented López wasn’t always a photographer. He lost both parents at age 11, and started working when he was a teenager in a movie theater in Colombia, where he was promoted to manager after 10 years.

    “It was World War II, and you couldn’t travel in a plane with a camera during that time,” says López, explaining how his photography career began. “A friend asked me to watch his camera while he went on a trip, and I started to practice with his camera.”

    He says he learned on his own with a book and a correspondence course that he never finished, and he was always asking questions.

    “I started taking photos in a series — like a movie,” he says. Still today, he says he’s always thinking in series — perhaps because of the many years of films he’s seen in the movie theater where he worked. “I always have my photos in my head, and I figure out what series they will go in later.”

    When he was 27, he quit his movie house job, and started working as a photojournalist at one of Colombia’s largest newspapers, El Espectador. That is when he says he started to travel all over Colombia and started his photo collection for the book, “Colombia: Que Lindo Eres”/”Colombia: How Beautiful You Are.”

    “The subjects I most gravitated towards were children,” says Lopez who also has a series called, “Niños Que No Rien”/“Children Who Don’t Laugh.” “Perhaps because I didn’t really have a real childhood.”

    In 1957, he became a chief photographer of the photographer’s magazine, Cromos, in Colombia. He says he was a photojournalist for 15 years before he started his center of photography where he taught up to 100 students at a time.

    Since he’s been in New York City, he has not wasted any of his precious minutes. He’s been recognized by the New York City Council and has shown his work at the Queens Museum and El Museo del Barrio.

    “It hasn’t been easy, because I don’t speak English,” says López in his native Spanish.

    He says he’s happy to not have to develop photos the old-fashioned way anymore. He’s well-equipped in his new one-bedroom apartment, in a building for the elderly, with bare white walls lined with varied books, including “Macs for Dummies.” The centerpiece of his living room is a shiny new 27-inch Mac computer, complete with scanner and printer. He explains he loves his craft even more now with modern technology.

    “For me, paper is obsolete,” he exclaims, laughing.

    One of the highlights of his week is going to a senior center in Queens, NY. Even though he moved to a different neighborhood, he still goes on Tuesdays, because that’s the day the seniors dance after lunch.

    “To see these seniors dance and have fun is life,” he says, joking that no one is older than him. “They have a desire to live. I take photos demonstrating their desire to live.”

    He says he would like to publish a book of these photos called ”La Primavera del Ocaso”/“The Spring of the Sunset,” but he’ll only do it if it can have that name. He also started making goals for himself again — to be featured in a large museum such as, the Museum of Modern Art in New York City, and to live in Spain and Paris one day.

    “When I came to New York, I said to my friend, ‘I came to New York too late,” says López, eager to start on a new project with some young artists he’s encountered. “My friend responded, ‘You never arrive too late to New York, you just came with less time,’ but I hope to live 100 years more…I haven’t arrived to where I wanted to arrive, but I’m on my way.”

    López says when he came to the U.S. and obtained his residency, and citizenship five years ago, he saw a new horizon.

    “When one sees a horizon, one sees life,” says the photographer with never-ending vision. “Here is where I’ll stay.”

    This article was originally published on NBCLatino.com on January 10, 2013. 

  • 70-year-old nurse practitioner, and teacher, remembers her most humbling moment

    70-year-old nurse practitioner, and teacher, remembers her most humbling moment

    Beth Farren (Photo/Richard Posey)
    Beth Farren (Photo/Richard Posey)

    Beth Farren, 70, continues living her life doing what she loves most – nursing, teaching, and fitting in the time to play tennis.

    Originally from Chicago, she has lived in Dallas for the past 33 years, where she volunteers as a nurse practitioner at a nearby clinic, teaches nursing online at Texas Tech, and sits on the board of the North Texas Nurse Practitioners – where she helps raise money for social causes.

    “I have lovely days,” says Farren, in her kind, soft voice. “Some days, I diagnose and treat women’s health – pelvic exams, breast exams, pulmonary exams…I also work in the neurology clinic and dermatology clinic. Both have specialty doctors, and I’m their nurse.”

    Farren says she started teaching way before she became a nurse practitioner – a career which requires advanced coursework and clinical education beyond that required of a registered nurse.

    After getting her bachelor’s degree in nursing from the University of Tennessee at Chattanooga, Farren says she started to think about getting a masters.

    “The new dean of the nursing program called me and asked me if I wanted to come teach,” she remembers. “I told her I only had a bachelor’s degree, but she told me they didn’t have enough people with master’s degree, so she was asking those with bachelor’s degrees to do clinical teaching.”

    So Farren made an arrangement with her then husband where he helped with their little boys in the morning.

    “I started, and I loved it,” says Farren about her first teaching experience. “I taught for them for 10 years.”

    During her time in Tennessee, she also worked with women who didn’t have access to prenatal care.

    “They were just learning about premature births at that time,” says Farren who took a course in working with premature babies. “I learned that some babies would not have been premature if the mom had just had good prenatal care. I began to be passionate about it.”

    So while working on her master’s, she decided she was more interested in prevention and taking care of patients that would benefit from education.

    “I mentally left the hospital and pursued courses,” says Farren. “Nowadays, practitioners have a great variety of roles, but when I became a nurse practitioner, we worked outside of the hospitals trying to prevent people from going to the hospital.”

    After earning her master’s degree, she moved to Texas for a job opportunity, and there she also earned her doctorate degree.

    “I always volunteered one night a week, when my boys were older, at the free clinic,” says Farren. “I’m nothing special. They were just opportunities I had.”

    Some of those opportunities included going to Poland and Romania, who were moving away from communism, to teach standards of practice; as well as working at a Cuban refugee camp in Wisconsin one summer.

    “In the early ‘80s, Fidel Castro let a bunch of people from psychiatric facilities in Cuba come to America, and all these people showed up in Miami on boats and rafts, and the Army started taking them to different bases to try and take care of them,” says Farren. “The fort I was in was considered a family camp with a lot of pregnant women and children…a number of my patients told me they had been in prison, and I strongly believe a lot of them were political prisoners.”

    Perhaps the most impactful moment of her long career, she says, was the moment she thought she might lose her son.

    “About 15 years ago, my son had a very serious emergency, and I wound up taking him down to the county hospital here in Dallas,” recounts Farren about her son’s gastric bleed. “One of my students was in the emergency room. She looked up and saw me, and said, ‘Dr. Farren, I’m going to take care of this.’ I realized in that moment that I was able to tell her how much blood he’d lost, and she was able to believe me, because she knew who I was.”

    The next day, she says another one of her students took care of him.

    “It’s just one of the most humbling things,” says Farren about the whole experience. “I had just done my job to teach these girls, and there they were when I needed them. It wasn’t anything special I did – just the rhythms of life.”

    She says her piece of advice to the younger generation is:

    “Remember to do what you love, and trust that it will all be ok,” says Farren. “We all worry so much, thinking, ‘Can I make a living doing this?’ ‘Is it even doable?’ I got my doctorate as a single mom, while I worked full-time and did part-time jobs on the side, and nobody in their right mind told me it was a doable thing, but it was.”

  • Business leader talks about conquering self-doubt to embrace success

    Business leader talks about conquering self-doubt to embrace success

    (Courtesy Joyce Roché)
    (Courtesy Joyce Roché)

    Joyce Roché has climbed higher on the corporate ladder than most. For her, it was learning about opportunities she never knew existed, and learning to conquer self-doubt, that made all the difference.

    Her illustrious 25 year-career in business includes being CEO of Girls Inc. from 2000 to 2010, the first African American female vice president of Avon, as well as its first African American vice president of marketing, and the company’s first vice president of global marketing.

    Although officially retired from her CEO position, Roché, 67,  has not slowed down. The New Orleans native, presently residing in Savannah, Georgia, now spends her time as a board member of four Fortune 500 companies and traveling to speak about her recently published business memoir, “The Empress Has No Clothes: Conquering Self-Doubt to Embrace Success.” She also provides a supportive online community for people to share their experiences with self-doubt, and their techniques for conquering them.

    “I thought I was actually going to be a school teacher, and I majored in math education in college and actually went all the way to getting a teaching certificate, but during senior year I learned about business school, and I decided to pursue an MBA,” says Roché.

    It had been a conversation with her boyfriend, and his friends, which opened her eyes to the world of business for the first time, she remembers.

    “I thought I should at least give it a shot,” says Roché. “Although I enjoyed working with kids, I thought, ‘Am I doing it because it’s all I know. I should at least investigate it.’ I’m very happy I made that choice. It opened up a whole new world to me, and opportunities that I never dreamed of.”

    She says before studying for her MBA at Columbia University, she didn’t know anything about marketing, or anybody in the business world.

    “I never thought I could be the president of a company, or on a corporate board,” says Roché, adding her first “real job” was in Avon’s merchandising department. “I am hugely grateful that the opportunity presented itself, and I took a look at it.”

    But that’s not to say all of her hard work and dedication to get to the top didn’t come with struggles – one of her biggest being self-doubt. Self-doubt had played such a prominent role in her life, she says, that she wrote a letter about it which was published in the book, “What I Know Now: Letters to My Younger Self” by Ellyn Spragins.

    “My letter talked about how as I was climbing the corporate ladder, there was a constant self-doubt that people were going to find out I wasn’t prepared, or smart enough, which caused me to work longer hours and not enjoy my success,” says Roché.

    She says she started getting so many e-mails and letters from people saying that I was telling their story. About five years later, she decided to write her book.

    “If I could explore how I learned to enjoy my journey, and communicate that to others, and give them techniques to get to that place faster, that was my impetus,” says Roché about the book for which she interviewed more than a dozen prominent business leaders who also struggled with self-doubt.

    After a lot of hard work, and learning to overcome her self-doubt, Roché says keeping her options open helped her succeed in a world dominated by men.

    “I didn’t have a five year plan,” she says. “I realized the world was changing way too fast. I think being able to take a risk to do different kinds of things…really led me to the growth I was able to achieve.”

    During her time heading Girls, Inc., while visiting chapters in the U.S. and Canada, Roché also saw that the young girls in the program also needed to be able to see the possibilities in the world, and not be narrowed by expectations, just because the color of their skin.

    “They never knew that science or chemistry could be used in the beauty industry, or they never saw women leading companies,” says Roché. “To open that lens…and to encourage them to have the courage to pursue those opportunities, I think that’s the big advantage that Girls Inc. provides to our girls.”

    And if she had to pick one piece of life advice to tell her younger self, what would it be?

    “To relax – you do deserve a place at the table. You are smart. You do have the skill set. Relax and enjoy the journey.”

  • How to take control of your life

     

    When you are dealing with a challenge in your life, do you feel that you have control over the outcome, or do you believe that you are a victim of outside forces?

    If you believe that you have control over what happens, then you have what psychologists refer to as an internal locus of control. If you believe that you have no control over what happens, and that external circumstances are to blame, then you have what is known as an external locus of control.

    People with an internal locus of control:

    • Are more likely to take responsibility for their actions.
    • Tend to be less influenced by the opinions of other people.
    • They do a better job when they are  allowed to work at their own pace.
    • They usually have a strong sense of self-efficacy.
    • They work hard to achieve the things they want.
    • They feel confident in the face of challenges.
    • They tend to be physically healthier.
    • They are happier and more independent.
    • They often achieve greater success in the workplace.

    People with an external locus of control:

    • Blame outside forces for their circumstances.
    • They often credit luck or chance for any successes.
    • They don’t believe they can change their situation through their own efforts.
    • They frequently feel hopeless or powerless in the appearance of difficult situations.

    When people feel that they have no control over their situation, they begin to behave in a helpless manner.

    The Locus Control Theory says that you feel positive about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life, and you feel negative about yourself to the degree to which you feel that you are controlled by some external force, or influence.

    Most stress, anxiety, tension, and psychosomatic illnesses come about as the result of the person feeling out of control, or not in control, of some important part of his/her life.

    If you feel that your life is controlled by debts, or your boss, or ill health, or bad relationships, or the behavior of others, you will suffer stress. Stress will manifest as irritation, anger, and resentment. If you don’t deal with it will progress to insomnia, depression, or illness of various kinds.

    You can have either and internal or external locus of control. That is, you can feel that you are in charge of your own life, happy, positive, and confident, or you can feel controlled by others and feeling helpless, trapped, and much like a victim.

    Well how can you take control of you life?

    Taking control of your life begins with your thoughts.

    How you think about the situation determines how you feel, and your feelings determine your behavior. Self-discipline, self-mastery, self-control all begin with you taking control of your thinking.

    There are two ways you can get control of any situation:

    • You can take action, and do something to change it.
    • You can simply walk away and regain control by letting go of a person, or situation.

    It is so important for you to know exactly what you want, because the self confidence that comes from feeling in control is why a person with a clear purpose, and a plan, always edge over someone who is vague and unsure.

    DrJosefinaBioDr. Josefina Monasterio is a certified life coach, fitness expert, and nutritional counselor based in Vero Beach, Florida. She holds a PhD in Adult Personal Development from Nova University and a Master’s Degree in Education from Boston University. Dr. Josefina is also a certified Yoga Therapist from the World Yoga Society of Calcutta, India, and host of Healthy Power TV’s “The Dr. Josefina Way.”

  • The simple secret to achieving any dream, at any age

    You are never too young to have a dream or to old to have a vision.

    The first step in living your life at your full potential is to have a clear vision of who you are, and what you want.

    How do you do that?

    You must start looking at your life through eyes of confidence, trust, reliance and conviction. You must have a mental picture of yourself where you see yourself growing in your spiritual life, your health, your business, your family, and also your finances.

    Mentally, see your dreams happen. You have to visualize and conceive it in your heart, and mind, if you ever hope to experience it on the outside.

    This image has to become a part of you, deep in your subconscious mind, in your thoughts, your conversation, actions, and in every part of your being.

    Your life is not going to change until you change your thinking.

    You cannot make the changes in your life when you are set in your ways, bound by your perceptions and stuck in your thinking.

    When you look into your future, what do see?

    Do you see yourself-getting stronger, healthier, happier, and your life filled with blessings?

    What you see, is what you get.

    If you want to be successful, you must expect the best of yourself and about life in general. If you dwell in positive thoughts, your life moves in that direction.

    If you expect defeat, failure, and mediocrity, your subconscious will make sure that you get that.

    That is the reason why if you want to move in the direction of your dreams, you must increase your level of expectancy.

    When you get up in the morning say to yourself:

    “Hello beautiful! What can I do for you today? This is a great day. I am excited about today.”

    Start your day with faith and positive expectancy, and anticipate good things happening to you. Expect that all things will work for good for you. Expect people to go out of their way to help you. Expect to be at the right place at the right time.

    You have the key to empower yourself. All you have to do is start expecting good things in your life.

    You may be asking, “Is she crazy? What if I do all that, and it does not work?”

    Well what if you do that, and it does work?

    What do you have to lose by being hopeful, confident and having a good attitude? By being your best no matter where you are at this moment in your life? By being a light in a sometimes difficult world?

    One thing I know for sure. Your life will never improve as long as you stay in a negative frame of mind. Low expectations will trap you into mediocrity.

    You must think positive thoughts, loving thoughts, constructive thoughts. Thoughts of victory, abundance, and hope.

    Keep your mind set in the right direction.

    DrJosefinaBioDr. Josefina Monasterio is a certified life coach, fitness expert, and nutritional counselor based in Vero Beach, Florida. She holds a PhD in Adult Personal Development from Nova University and a Master’s Degree in Education from Boston University. Dr. Josefina is also a certified Yoga Therapist from the World Yoga Society of Calcutta, India, and host of Healthy Power TV’s “The Dr. Josefina Way.”