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  • Long-time NY businessman and marketer gives back by teaching

    Long-time NY businessman and marketer gives back by teaching

    Myron Gould (Photo/Greyson Cage Stock)
    Myron Gould (Photo/Greyson Cage Stock)

    “When I was much younger, I wanted to be a chemical engineer, but as I got a little older, I guess my mind turned more towards business,” says Myron Gould, 68. “My father was a very big influence in that decision. He was a person who was in business…he was a role model in that regard…I would sit in the car and listen to him and listen to what was going on – it was interesting. He sold machine parts, adhesives, all material used by manufacturing firms.”

    The born and raised New Yorker has worked four decades in the business and marketing arena. In addition to being the CEO of his own business advising firm, where he helps people build business plans, he is also starting a new consulting firm to teach companies to keep their employees engaged. Gould is also an adjunct professor of marketing and management at New York University.

    “It’s my 20th year at NYU,” says Gould. “I was sitting in a friend’s office – a recruiter who dealt with direct marketing people…He got a phone call, and he said to the person on the phone, I have somebody right here. [The person] asked if I’d be interested in teaching a class, and I never stopped.”

    And Gould never stops working it seems. In addition to running his business, he says he recently created a new capstone at the University – an option to writing a thesis for students which involves writing up a business plan instead and learning about entrepreneurship.

    “I get a considerable amount of e-mails from clients, I grade papers, then I go through many projects that I’m working on,” explains Gould. “My classes are from 6 to 9 pm, and this coming term four times a week – it varies. I have dinner at 9:30 or 10:30, then work another four hours.”

    He says he’s making an effort in getting more sleep, however.

    “I love what I do,” says Gould. “I feel like I’m helping people.”

    When Gould was starting out his career in the mid-1960’s, he says marketing wasn’t even called “marketing,” but “distribution.” One of his favorite jobs was at Columbia Records in his early 30’s.

    “It was a great place,” he remembers. “Sometimes I debate whether I should have left or not. I was recruited for a consulting firm.”

    Today, he thinks video is the way to go. He uses green screen technology to create videos to complement his teaching.

    “I have virtual sets,” says the high-tech professor, excitedly. “I can put myself into a green room…Like where a weather person delivers the weather. I create videos of some of my lessons and make them available for people…I can be doing my work while sipping piña coladas on a ship.”

    What advice would he tell his younger self about life?

    “I would talk about getting enough information to make good decisions,” he says. “A lot of times we make decisions impatiently, but sometimes it’s better to slow down a little bit. There were times in my life where I could have made a better decision by not acting so quickly.”

    He adds his biggest project currently is getting his grandson, who just turned 4, to have a good life.

    “What he does with his life is his choice, but I want him to be equipped to make those decisions,” says Gould.

  • Business leader talks about conquering self-doubt to embrace success

    Business leader talks about conquering self-doubt to embrace success

    (Courtesy Joyce Roché)
    (Courtesy Joyce Roché)

    Joyce Roché has climbed higher on the corporate ladder than most. For her, it was learning about opportunities she never knew existed, and learning to conquer self-doubt, that made all the difference.

    Her illustrious 25 year-career in business includes being CEO of Girls Inc. from 2000 to 2010, the first African American female vice president of Avon, as well as its first African American vice president of marketing, and the company’s first vice president of global marketing.

    Although officially retired from her CEO position, Roché, 67,  has not slowed down. The New Orleans native, presently residing in Savannah, Georgia, now spends her time as a board member of four Fortune 500 companies and traveling to speak about her recently published business memoir, “The Empress Has No Clothes: Conquering Self-Doubt to Embrace Success.” She also provides a supportive online community for people to share their experiences with self-doubt, and their techniques for conquering them.

    “I thought I was actually going to be a school teacher, and I majored in math education in college and actually went all the way to getting a teaching certificate, but during senior year I learned about business school, and I decided to pursue an MBA,” says Roché.

    It had been a conversation with her boyfriend, and his friends, which opened her eyes to the world of business for the first time, she remembers.

    “I thought I should at least give it a shot,” says Roché. “Although I enjoyed working with kids, I thought, ‘Am I doing it because it’s all I know. I should at least investigate it.’ I’m very happy I made that choice. It opened up a whole new world to me, and opportunities that I never dreamed of.”

    She says before studying for her MBA at Columbia University, she didn’t know anything about marketing, or anybody in the business world.

    “I never thought I could be the president of a company, or on a corporate board,” says Roché, adding her first “real job” was in Avon’s merchandising department. “I am hugely grateful that the opportunity presented itself, and I took a look at it.”

    But that’s not to say all of her hard work and dedication to get to the top didn’t come with struggles – one of her biggest being self-doubt. Self-doubt had played such a prominent role in her life, she says, that she wrote a letter about it which was published in the book, “What I Know Now: Letters to My Younger Self” by Ellyn Spragins.

    “My letter talked about how as I was climbing the corporate ladder, there was a constant self-doubt that people were going to find out I wasn’t prepared, or smart enough, which caused me to work longer hours and not enjoy my success,” says Roché.

    She says she started getting so many e-mails and letters from people saying that I was telling their story. About five years later, she decided to write her book.

    “If I could explore how I learned to enjoy my journey, and communicate that to others, and give them techniques to get to that place faster, that was my impetus,” says Roché about the book for which she interviewed more than a dozen prominent business leaders who also struggled with self-doubt.

    After a lot of hard work, and learning to overcome her self-doubt, Roché says keeping her options open helped her succeed in a world dominated by men.

    “I didn’t have a five year plan,” she says. “I realized the world was changing way too fast. I think being able to take a risk to do different kinds of things…really led me to the growth I was able to achieve.”

    During her time heading Girls, Inc., while visiting chapters in the U.S. and Canada, Roché also saw that the young girls in the program also needed to be able to see the possibilities in the world, and not be narrowed by expectations, just because the color of their skin.

    “They never knew that science or chemistry could be used in the beauty industry, or they never saw women leading companies,” says Roché. “To open that lens…and to encourage them to have the courage to pursue those opportunities, I think that’s the big advantage that Girls Inc. provides to our girls.”

    And if she had to pick one piece of life advice to tell her younger self, what would it be?

    “To relax – you do deserve a place at the table. You are smart. You do have the skill set. Relax and enjoy the journey.”

  • How to take control of your life

     

    When you are dealing with a challenge in your life, do you feel that you have control over the outcome, or do you believe that you are a victim of outside forces?

    If you believe that you have control over what happens, then you have what psychologists refer to as an internal locus of control. If you believe that you have no control over what happens, and that external circumstances are to blame, then you have what is known as an external locus of control.

    People with an internal locus of control:

    • Are more likely to take responsibility for their actions.
    • Tend to be less influenced by the opinions of other people.
    • They do a better job when they are  allowed to work at their own pace.
    • They usually have a strong sense of self-efficacy.
    • They work hard to achieve the things they want.
    • They feel confident in the face of challenges.
    • They tend to be physically healthier.
    • They are happier and more independent.
    • They often achieve greater success in the workplace.

    People with an external locus of control:

    • Blame outside forces for their circumstances.
    • They often credit luck or chance for any successes.
    • They don’t believe they can change their situation through their own efforts.
    • They frequently feel hopeless or powerless in the appearance of difficult situations.

    When people feel that they have no control over their situation, they begin to behave in a helpless manner.

    The Locus Control Theory says that you feel positive about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life, and you feel negative about yourself to the degree to which you feel that you are controlled by some external force, or influence.

    Most stress, anxiety, tension, and psychosomatic illnesses come about as the result of the person feeling out of control, or not in control, of some important part of his/her life.

    If you feel that your life is controlled by debts, or your boss, or ill health, or bad relationships, or the behavior of others, you will suffer stress. Stress will manifest as irritation, anger, and resentment. If you don’t deal with it will progress to insomnia, depression, or illness of various kinds.

    You can have either and internal or external locus of control. That is, you can feel that you are in charge of your own life, happy, positive, and confident, or you can feel controlled by others and feeling helpless, trapped, and much like a victim.

    Well how can you take control of you life?

    Taking control of your life begins with your thoughts.

    How you think about the situation determines how you feel, and your feelings determine your behavior. Self-discipline, self-mastery, self-control all begin with you taking control of your thinking.

    There are two ways you can get control of any situation:

    • You can take action, and do something to change it.
    • You can simply walk away and regain control by letting go of a person, or situation.

    It is so important for you to know exactly what you want, because the self confidence that comes from feeling in control is why a person with a clear purpose, and a plan, always edge over someone who is vague and unsure.

    DrJosefinaBioDr. Josefina Monasterio is a certified life coach, fitness expert, and nutritional counselor based in Vero Beach, Florida. She holds a PhD in Adult Personal Development from Nova University and a Master’s Degree in Education from Boston University. Dr. Josefina is also a certified Yoga Therapist from the World Yoga Society of Calcutta, India, and host of Healthy Power TV’s “The Dr. Josefina Way.”

  • The simple secret to achieving any dream, at any age

    You are never too young to have a dream or to old to have a vision.

    The first step in living your life at your full potential is to have a clear vision of who you are, and what you want.

    How do you do that?

    You must start looking at your life through eyes of confidence, trust, reliance and conviction. You must have a mental picture of yourself where you see yourself growing in your spiritual life, your health, your business, your family, and also your finances.

    Mentally, see your dreams happen. You have to visualize and conceive it in your heart, and mind, if you ever hope to experience it on the outside.

    This image has to become a part of you, deep in your subconscious mind, in your thoughts, your conversation, actions, and in every part of your being.

    Your life is not going to change until you change your thinking.

    You cannot make the changes in your life when you are set in your ways, bound by your perceptions and stuck in your thinking.

    When you look into your future, what do see?

    Do you see yourself-getting stronger, healthier, happier, and your life filled with blessings?

    What you see, is what you get.

    If you want to be successful, you must expect the best of yourself and about life in general. If you dwell in positive thoughts, your life moves in that direction.

    If you expect defeat, failure, and mediocrity, your subconscious will make sure that you get that.

    That is the reason why if you want to move in the direction of your dreams, you must increase your level of expectancy.

    When you get up in the morning say to yourself:

    “Hello beautiful! What can I do for you today? This is a great day. I am excited about today.”

    Start your day with faith and positive expectancy, and anticipate good things happening to you. Expect that all things will work for good for you. Expect people to go out of their way to help you. Expect to be at the right place at the right time.

    You have the key to empower yourself. All you have to do is start expecting good things in your life.

    You may be asking, “Is she crazy? What if I do all that, and it does not work?”

    Well what if you do that, and it does work?

    What do you have to lose by being hopeful, confident and having a good attitude? By being your best no matter where you are at this moment in your life? By being a light in a sometimes difficult world?

    One thing I know for sure. Your life will never improve as long as you stay in a negative frame of mind. Low expectations will trap you into mediocrity.

    You must think positive thoughts, loving thoughts, constructive thoughts. Thoughts of victory, abundance, and hope.

    Keep your mind set in the right direction.

    DrJosefinaBioDr. Josefina Monasterio is a certified life coach, fitness expert, and nutritional counselor based in Vero Beach, Florida. She holds a PhD in Adult Personal Development from Nova University and a Master’s Degree in Education from Boston University. Dr. Josefina is also a certified Yoga Therapist from the World Yoga Society of Calcutta, India, and host of Healthy Power TV’s “The Dr. Josefina Way.”

  • 7 principles to building healthy relationships that last

    7 principles to building healthy relationships that last

     

    Photo/ Old People Holding Hands blog
    Photo/ Old People Holding Hands blog

    Are you a people builder or a people basher?

    Relationships can be extremely complicated, yet they are a part of every aspect of daily life – from leading a successful business to having an emotionally stable family. Thankfully, building and maintaining quality relationships entails only seven key principles.

    1. Trust

    All relationships are based on trust. To build trust, you must be trustworthy and remain consistent and dependable with everything you say and do.  You should be the kind of person who is absolutely reliable in every situation.

    2. Respect

    Take time to purposely express your respect for the people around you. You will find that it makes them feel valuable and important. In addition, make sure you are a careful and attentive listener. When you listen carefully, and with total attention, you demonstrate the respect you have for a person’s uniqueness. This will greatly enhance the quality of your relationship.

    3. Time

    How much time you physically spend with another person is a critical and elemental factor in communicating well with another person. The value of a relationship can increase for both you and the other person depending on the amount of time that you invest in it.

    4Politeness

    When you say “please” and “thank you” on a regular basis to the people in your life, you make them feel better about themselves. You raise their self-esteem, make them feel honored and important, and they feel good about what they are doing.

    5Caring

    The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance. Stop criticizing, condemning or complaining to people or to others, and start thinking of yourself as a people builder rather than a people basher.

    People builders acknowledge others when they are doing something right. So, always look for ways to make people feel more valued, respected, loved and appreciated.

    7Praise and appreciation

    Remember, the three most powerful words in any relationship are the words “I love you.” Take the time to show and tell the most important people in your life that you love them, and do it in many different ways, and as often as possible. Never take for granted that you’re loved ones should “just know” you love them…tell them! Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted

    When you express your appreciation to another person for something they do for you, they feel better about themselves, and they want to do more of it.

    7. Cooperation

    Be willing to share, contribute, and help each other while having a pleasant attitude. This is an important facet of lasting relationships.

    One of the easiest, most inexpensive ways to build empowering relationships is by always greeting people with a smile. There is a Chinese proverb that says, “A man without a smiling face must not open a shop.”

    I say, “Smile! It increases your face value!”

    DrJosefinaBioDr. Josefina Monasterio is a certified life coach,  fitness expert, and nutritional counselor based in Vero Beach, Florida. She holds a PhD in Adult Personal Development from Nova University and a Master’s Degree in Education from Boston University. Dr. Josefina is also a certified Yoga Therapist from the World Yoga Society of Calcutta, India, and host of Healthy Power TV’s “The Dr. Josefina Way.”