My mom is a pusher. She has pushed through more things than one might assume her tiny stature was capable of. Having her as my example turned me into a pusher. But, sometimes you want to push for those you love, and it doesn’t really work.

If I care for you, I’m loyal until the end, almost to a fault. If my best friend is getting married (she is), I’m jumping for joy. If my best friend is sad, I’m sad next to her. If someone hurts my best friend, I’m livid. REALLY livid. As one of my guy besties likes to call it, “crazy girlfriend status.”

As I get older, I’ve learned to listen to my mom and her words more. She’s always said to me:

         No sudes calentura ajena.

(Don’t sweat other people’s heat)

You can’t want things for people more than they want it for themselves. In the end, you may be doing more harm than good. You can make them feel insecure, or have them shut you out (been there, done that). Instead, I’m learning to put my support out there and sit back. Anyone who is wanting to have it knows it’s there.

Besides, as a Florida girl, who wants to be sweating all the time? Gross.

Victoria Moll-Ramirez is a broadcast journalist based in Atlanta, GA. She is originally from Miami, FL and had the great fortune of being raised by the sassiest, spunkiest, wisest, most hysterical Honduran woman in the world. Victoria’s mother, Bélgica, is 60-years-old, resides in Little Havana (Miami) and enjoys a good margarita accompanied by a heartrending ranchera. Victoria blogs about her mom’s funny and wise sayings on, “In My Mother’s Words.”