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  • Business leader talks about conquering self-doubt to embrace success

    Business leader talks about conquering self-doubt to embrace success


    A woman with short hair wearing red necklace.
    (Courtesy Joyce Roché)

    Joyce Roché has climbed higher on the corporate ladder than most. For her, it was learning about opportunities she never knew existed, and learning to conquer self-doubt, that made all the difference.

    Her illustrious 25 year-career in business includes being CEO of Girls Inc. from 2000 to 2010, the first African American female vice president of Avon, as well as its first African American vice president of marketing, and the company’s first vice president of global marketing.

    Although officially retired from her CEO position, Roché, 67,  has not slowed down. The New Orleans native, presently residing in Savannah, Georgia, now spends her time as a board member of four Fortune 500 companies and traveling to speak about her recently published business memoir, “The Empress Has No Clothes: Conquering Self-Doubt to Embrace Success.â€Â She also provides a supportive online community for people to share their experiences with self-doubt, and their techniques for conquering them.

    “I thought I was actually going to be a school teacher, and I majored in math education in college and actually went all the way to getting a teaching certificate, but during senior year I learned about business school, and I decided to pursue an MBA,†says Roché.

    It had been a conversation with her boyfriend, and his friends, which opened her eyes to the world of business for the first time, she remembers.

    “I thought I should at least give it a shot,†says Roché. “Although I enjoyed working with kids, I thought, ‘Am I doing it because it’s all I know. I should at least investigate it.’ I’m very happy I made that choice. It opened up a whole new world to me, and opportunities that I never dreamed of.â€

    She says before studying for her MBA at Columbia University, she didn’t know anything about marketing, or anybody in the business world.

    “I never thought I could be the president of a company, or on a corporate board,†says Roché, adding her first “real job†was in Avon’s merchandising department. “I am hugely grateful that the opportunity presented itself, and I took a look at it.â€

    But that’s not to say all of her hard work and dedication to get to the top didn’t come with struggles – one of her biggest being self-doubt. Self-doubt had played such a prominent role in her life, she says, that she wrote a letter about it which was published in the book, “What I Know Now: Letters to My Younger Self†by Ellyn Spragins.

    “My letter talked about how as I was climbing the corporate ladder, there was a constant self-doubt that people were going to find out I wasn’t prepared, or smart enough, which caused me to work longer hours and not enjoy my success,†says Roché.

    She says she started getting so many e-mails and letters from people saying that I was telling their story. About five years later, she decided to write her book.

    “If I could explore how I learned to enjoy my journey, and communicate that to others, and give them techniques to get to that place faster, that was my impetus,†says Roché about the book for which she interviewed more than a dozen prominent business leaders who also struggled with self-doubt.

    After a lot of hard work, and learning to overcome her self-doubt, Roché says keeping her options open helped her succeed in a world dominated by men.

    “I didn’t have a five year plan,†she says. “I realized the world was changing way too fast. I think being able to take a risk to do different kinds of things…really led me to the growth I was able to achieve.â€

    During her time heading Girls, Inc., while visiting chapters in the U.S. and Canada, Roché also saw that the young girls in the program also needed to be able to see the possibilities in the world, and not be narrowed by expectations, just because the color of their skin.

    “They never knew that science or chemistry could be used in the beauty industry, or they never saw women leading companies,†says Roché. “To open that lens…and to encourage them to have the courage to pursue those opportunities, I think that’s the big advantage that Girls Inc. provides to our girls.â€

    And if she had to pick one piece of life advice to tell her younger self, what would it be?

    “To relax – you do deserve a place at the table. You are smart. You do have the skill set. Relax and enjoy the journey.â€

  • How to take control of your life


     

    When you are dealing with a challenge in your life, do you feel that you have control over the outcome, or do you believe that you are a victim of outside forces?

    If you believe that you have control over what happens, then you have what psychologists refer to as an internal locus of control. If you believe that you have no control over what happens, and that external circumstances are to blame, then you have what is known as an external locus of control.

    People with an internal locus of control:

    • Are more likely to take responsibility for their actions.
    • Tend to be less influenced by the opinions of other people.
    • They do a better job when they are  allowed to work at their own pace.
    • They usually have a strong sense of self-efficacy.
    • They work hard to achieve the things they want.
    • They feel confident in the face of challenges.
    • They tend to be physically healthier.
    • They are happier and more independent.
    • They often achieve greater success in the workplace.

    People with an external locus of control:

    • Blame outside forces for their circumstances.
    • They often credit luck or chance for any successes.
    • They don’t believe they can change their situation through their own efforts.
    • They frequently feel hopeless or powerless in the appearance of difficult situations.

    When people feel that they have no control over their situation, they begin to behave in a helpless manner.

    The Locus Control Theory says that you feel positive about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life, and you feel negative about yourself to the degree to which you feel that you are controlled by some external force, or influence.

    Most stress, anxiety, tension, and psychosomatic illnesses come about as the result of the person feeling out of control, or not in control, of some important part of his/her life.

    If you feel that your life is controlled by debts, or your boss, or ill health, or bad relationships, or the behavior of others, you will suffer stress. Stress will manifest as irritation, anger, and resentment. If you don’t deal with it will progress to insomnia, depression, or illness of various kinds.

    You can have either and internal or external locus of control. That is, you can feel that you are in charge of your own life, happy, positive, and confident, or you can feel controlled by others and feeling helpless, trapped, and much like a victim.

    Well how can you take control of you life?

    Taking control of your life begins with your thoughts.

    How you think about the situation determines how you feel, and your feelings determine your behavior. Self-discipline, self-mastery, self-control all begin with you taking control of your thinking.

    There are two ways you can get control of any situation:

    • You can take action, and do something to change it.
    • You can simply walk away and regain control by letting go of a person, or situation.

    It is so important for you to know exactly what you want, because the self confidence that comes from feeling in control is why a person with a clear purpose, and a plan, always edge over someone who is vague and unsure.

    A woman with short hair wearing red necklace.Dr. Josefina Monasterio is a certified life coach, fitness expert, and nutritional counselor based in Vero Beach, Florida. She holds a PhD in Adult Personal Development from Nova University and a Master’s Degree in Education from Boston University. Dr. Josefina is also a certified Yoga Therapist from the World Yoga Society of Calcutta, India, and host of Healthy Power TV’s “The Dr. Josefina Way.â€

  • The importance of mental training for becoming a champion in life


     

    Muhammad Ali, one of the greatest professional boxers in the sport’s history once said, “To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.â€

    Mental training is the key for success in life. You have to be mentally tough to be a champion in your personal life. You need the mental attitude saying, “I want to.â€

    To be mentally tough involves specific proven techniques such as, setting goals, believing in yourself, improving your concentration, using imagery, overcoming obstacles and conquering anxiety.

    Each one of these techniques is strongly based on science. If you incorporate all of them into your life, you will empower yourself beyond your wildest dreams.

    The most powerful tool you have is your mind. When your mind is undisciplined, it can be very damaging to you, but when you discipline your mind, it can develop unlimited power.

    The book of James in the Bible, Chapter 1 says, “a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.†Too often we are crippled by analysis paralysis. We need to move away from the analytical side of our brain and learn how to use our mind in ways that will allow us to reach our full potential.

    Here are some tools to enhance your personal performance:

     1. Posture. Your posture  is a direct link to the brain, and it can dramatically influence your self-esteem and your performance. How you stand, and how you present yourself, can instantly transform your self confidence and how others respond to you.

     2. Power talk. Research shows that positive self talk can make you more confident and focused.

    3. Visualization. Use all your senses to create vivid images that can prepare you to train and perform at your highest level. Use the “flash back” technique to recreate vivid pictures of past success. Embrace those feelings of accomplishments – the sights, sounds, emotions, and thoughts, and allow them to prepare you for future achievements.

    4. Action. If you are serious about improving your life you need to do more than hope or wish. The difference between your dreams remaining a fantasy, or becoming real, is your resiliency, your consistency, perseverance, and your commitment to action. That internal energy creates the enthusiasm that keeps you working toward your personal goals.

    5. Make goals. To remain positive, and confident, think about your goals all the time. You won’t give up when things don’t go right the first time; you will go back and do it again. If you can’t go through the obstacles ahead, you will go around them. If you can’t go around them, you will go over them, and if you can’t go over them, you will go under them.

    6. Be creative and experiment. Rather than thinking about quitting, say to yourself, “I don’t like the results I am getting, so what do I need to do differently?†Remember that we reap what we sow. If you don’t like what you are reaping, it is time to sow something new.

    7. Realize your limitations are only temporary. Often our limitations are self-imposed. If you find yourself trapped, or stuck, your best ally is your passion, your determination, your attitude, and self motivation that will separate you from the rest.

    Former U.S. President Dwight D. Eisenhower once said, “What counts is not necessarily the size of the dog in the fight — it’s the size of the fight in the dog.”

    Once you stretch your mind with a new idea, it can never go back to its original dimension.

    A woman with short hair wearing red necklace.Dr. Josefina Monasterio is a certified life coach,  fitness expert, and nutritional counselor based in Vero Beach, Florida. She holds a PhD in Adult Personal Development from Nova University and a Master’s Degree in Education from Boston University. Dr. Josefina is also a certified Yoga Therapist from the World Yoga Society of Calcutta, India, and host of Healthy Power TV’s “The Dr. Josefina Way.â€